It’s an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid. More than likely you’ve known this girl for quite some time, and it means a lot that she has selected you to be one of her bridesmaids. Obviously, you’ve done something right in the relationship to garner such recognition. But along with the honor and recognition comes a lot of responsibility. It’s a big deal to be asked, because the bride is going to depend on you for some things. And what are those things exactly? Here’s our guide to the bridesmaid duties!
Be The Life Of The Party
Sounds easier than it actually is, doesn’t it? Being the life of the party is one of the most important bridesmaid duties. You’ll need to constantly be on the dance floor hyping up the bride, as well as making sure the groomsmen and guests are dancing the night away.
If you spot a few guests that seem like they want to get on the dance floor but aren’t going for it, pull them out of their seat and make them shake their moneymaker! You and the other bridesmaids need to make sure that everyone is having as much fun as possible. Just as much as the bride and groom want things to go smoothly, they’re also worried about all of their guests having fun. You can do your part in easing their mind by getting those guests out on the dance floor.
Help With Pre-Wedding Planning
It may not be your wedding, but that doesn’t mean you can’t lend a hand where you think it’s needed. Every bride is different, and some may not want or need a bridesmaid’s help—but it’s always important to ask and be there in case you’re needed.
Periodically ask the bride about updates on certain aspects of the wedding and see if there’s any way you can help her out. Perhaps she needs another set of eyes on a venue, planning the wedding reception seating, or help curating a list of DJs. Whatever it is, there’s bound to be something that you can help out with.
Help Her Say “Yes” To The Dress
One of the more difficult decisions a bride will make is what dress to wear. If she asks you to go along for dress fittings, then make sure you’re able to go. She will want your support, and probably your fashion sense, if she’s asking you to come along with her. Try and brush up on the latest trends and have a good idea of what her style already is. Your voice can help make this decision easier on her.
Planning Pre-Wedding Events
There’s a lot on the bride’s plate, so helping out with these events is crucial. It’s become the norm for the bridesmaids and maid of honor to help plan the bachelorette party. Some brides want to be hands-on when it comes to the bachelorette party, but it’s becoming more common for them to let the bridesmaids and maid of honor do all of the decision-making.
The bridal shower is supposed to be fun, but planning it shouldn’t solely fall on the bride. Taking the time and effort to help make an unforgettable bridal shower is something she will really appreciate.
Helping her out with these pre-wedding events will take a lot off her plate, and is one of the more important bridesmaids duties.
Be There For Her Emotionally
The journey to the wedding is a rough ride. It probably shouldn’t be, but it is. There are a lot of emotions involved in planning and going through with a wedding, so it’s understandable that the bride might get a little emotional from time to time. If she takes it out on you by accident, try and understand that it’s not you she’s mad at, it’s the problem.
Be that shoulder that she can cry on, and lend that ear to her. These little things can go a long way with keeping her happy and not forcing her to bottle everything in. The occasional phone call or text to check in on everything is a great way to make sure she’s doing okay.
This goes for the actual wedding day, too, since the day of will be very emotional for her. Keep an eye on her throughout the day to make sure she’s doing well. You may have to hype her up a little bit.
Be Prepared With Food And Alcohol
With so much going on during the day of the wedding, the bride might forget to eat. She doesn’t need to be fainting just as she says “I do”! Try and be prepared with some snacks so she can get some fuel in her.
Similarly, she’s going to want to drink. It’s her wedding day, so most likely she’s going to want to indulge in a little alcohol. Make sure she’s got some of her favorite libations on hand for any other slower moments during the day. Contrariwise, if she’s getting too sloshed, watch out for her just as you would any other time.
Have An Emergency Bridesmaid Kit
There are so many things that can go wrong during the big day that it’s important to have some backup items in case of emergency.
The bride is bound to smear some makeup, get a headache, have a hair malfunction, or more. Having an emergency wedding kit can make sure that these small incidents don’t turn into a crisis. You may not need much of the stuff in the kit, but you and the bride will be happy you had them in case.
Help With The Small Things
On the wedding day, the bride is going to be so busy that helping limit all the small, mindless tasks can make a big difference. If she needs a glass of water, get it for her. If she needs a napkin to wipe away some sweat, get her a napkin. All of these little tasks add up to making the day much easier on her, and she will 100% appreciate you for it.
Bridesmaid Duties: Conclusion
There’s a lot of bridesmaids duties, aren’t there? As mentioned before, it’s an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid, but it comes with a lot of responsibility. This is the biggest day of the bride’s life, so making sure everything goes smoothly from the moment she asks you to the moment the reception is over is a lot of work. Some of these bridesmaid duties may seem to be common sense, but many times people forget them. And while these duties are usually the ones most people forget about, they can make a big difference on the day. The most important thing you can do is to be a good friend and be there when she asks you for something. That will go a long way.